The biggest linchpin? Observing someone who had what I wanted…who had all the accomplishments I dreamed of (if I let myself), plus seemed to be enjoying them!
Ok, I’ll admit it: I was jealous.
I’ve learned that being jealous of how someone else is (that I’m not) or what they have (that I don’t) just points to the delta between what I want and what I am currently doing about it (most likely, not much).
So, instead of pouting about it (a viable option), I got curious.
I had tried so many personal growth programs, methods, and retreats, and accomplished so much already! YET, I was still not deeply happy or fulfilled and…
I was exhausted and agitated all the time. I was not my ideal weight. My heart rate was never not resting (except for my anxiety). When not ignoring or interrupting my husband, I mostly bickered with him. My work was fine, but not inspiring. I was surviving my kids. I was off balance: When I was working I felt I should be with my kids, and when I was with my kids, I felt I should be working.
She, on the other hand, was energetic, joyous, loved her family and her job, and saw no competition between the two.
Her kids were thriving. Her business was growing. Not to mention (as much as I’d like not to), she exercised, shtupped her husband regularly, painted, and ate healthily. To boot, it even looked easy for her to balance it all!
I mean, how dare she!? I was green with envy.
She had what I wanted but what I didn’t think was possible.
SPOILER ALERT #1: She wasn’t always that happy. She had simply gotten clear on her dreams, changed her mind, and taken the right actions over and over and over again. She had fought the right fight (with herself). And then created a business with a mission that truly fulfilled her life’s purpose.
SPOILER ALERT #2: I hired her as my coach.
I’m sure you’ve all heard it before – you have to see it to believe it. For me, I have to see it, to be it.
In order to make the significant changes I wanted to make in my life, I needed to see them modeled. I needed her method to rub off on me. I learned, just like kids learn how to speak their first language by approximating, to do what I saw and heard my coach do. Granted, my coach had developed a methodology that I also followed, and still follow every day, 16 years later.
Reflecting on all of this earlier in 2020 as the pandemic hit got me thinking about how YOU can also be exposed to what you might want or need, and might not think possible.
Enter: Wake Up and W(h)ine Down – our wildly successful (and FREE) Community Coaching calls.
Seeing others go from not having what they want to having what they want rewires our brains!
We begin to believe.
Here’s a snapshot of what we’ve been observing in our Community Coaching Calls:
- Tons of new food plans have been upheld, pounds lost, and physical wellness gained
- Bad relationships ended bravely and delicious new ones begun
- Hard conversations and resolutions among family members that weren’t going to happen…happened
- New jobs obtained and new businesses launched
- More money made, even in a pandemic!
- One human even reported her newfound ability to orgasm during sex!
We cover it ALL!
It’s true…you gotta see it to BE IT!
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Who knew green was my color?
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Laurie Gerber is a Senior Coach and Co-President of Handel Group® Life Coaching. For over 15 years, Laurie has led international events and private coaching courses. She has appeared on MTV’s True Life, A&E’s The Marriage Test, Dr. Phil and TODAY.
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